Re-defining Mental Illness

I was chatting with a friend the other day.

She was describing her frustration with a co-worker who was very difficult to deal with.

Said person showed signs of negative leadership, pessimism, negativity, drama mongering; all things that could make one assume that this was just a bad person.

What came out of my mouth was “She is not well”. Are you firmly grounded and counted among the ‘good spirited?

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The Holistic Viewpoint

In the holistic view, we are not concerned with a clinical diagnosis. Rather, we are looking at a different paradigm that looks at mind/emotion/body/spirit wellness and wholeness as a goal to be worked towards.

Many people are semi-healthy. Not clinically ill, but far from well. While one’s outlook and behaviour may be far from certifiable, they may be emotionally and psychologically ‘not well’.

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This is what got me thinking. Two or three times a week I go ‘horsing’ with a 14 year old girl (she has 2 horses and I have the driver’s license and like horses). Most times I forget that she is 14 years old. This girl is as straight as an arrow. She’s a can-do person. If there is a load to be moved, she grabs a man-sized portion on her way by. She is a consummate team player.

As a natural leader she is not shy about expressing her ideas, but she also graciously concedes to a better idea when it feels right to her. No sulks, no power struggles, no mind games, no blaming, no passive aggressive, no mountains out of mole hills. Just enjoyable times bringing ourselves and the horses into a better future.

Even on the more difficult days we take the time to reflect on how much fun we are having, the positive outcomes and how far we’ve come in our training.

When I talked to her about the subject of this blog, she said “oh yeah, drama addicts” (out of the mouths of babes).

I consider her an equal so every once in a rare while, outside of the barn activities, she does act her age and I have to do a mental re-frame. Of course every once in a while I may be accused of acting my age too.

What can you do?

How can we keep our emotions balanced and our mind rational? You want to flow, but you feel stuck!

  • Find a program or day book that keeps you on track
  • Try using Bach Remedies – Emotions are what connects us with our Souls
  • Call for help- who do you know that can help you work it through?
  • Try a session of Body Talk, Specialized Kinesiology or some other energy system that helps you to dialogue with your body
  • Watch a Snivelly Movie (2nd World War term – to ‘soften the ground’)
  • Play music that evokes the emotions you are stuck in (Emotional Workout)
  • Have a Massage treatment
  • Go outside and walk to change your state
  • Create a Journal – Look for patterns
  • Listen to your thoughts/internal dialogue – what are you telling yourself?
  • Dig for the root: do you feel unloved, unsafe, unprotected, unworthy, not considered etc.

A New Resolution:

A commitment to some serious ‘Self Work’ is the road to spiritual maturity.

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What if we were to raise our bar in regard to personal relationships?

What if our New Year resolutions on the cusp of the new year went something like this?

I will commit to bringing my best to all relationships, including relations with those with whom I am most intimate and familiar

I will communicate kindly, cleanly and clearly using ‘I feel’ words I will endeavor to respect others and allow for other points of view and experience.

I will remain conscious and aware, and know that in situations where I cannot necessarily made things better, know that I can, with a careless word or deed, make things an awful lot worse

I will take full responsibility for my own thoughts, actions and emotions.

Even under duress, I will maintain a healthy respectfully assertive poise, rather than becoming unnecessarily defensive or aggressive

I will review my thinking patterns frequently, to determine if my thoughts and feelings are compassionate, respectful and balanced, towards myself and others

I will endeavor to take myself lightly, and ‘not sweat the small stuff’

Just as the constant presence of cookies may break one’s resolve while trying to eat more health consciously, and hanging around with old drinking buds may weaken a alcoholic’s will-power, changing one’s circle of friends may be necessary for a while until you are firmly grounded and counted among the ‘good spirited’.

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Soul sickness may be at the root of the malaise. Do the necessary inner-work to heal your past hurts and resentment. Take conscious and active steps for the frequent refreshment for your mind and spirit.

I move my body; a walk or even just taking a stretch and a drink of water.

Which of these suggestions do you think helps you to stay centered? I would love to hear what works for you.

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Bio PicNelda McEwen has been practicing as a Medical Intuitive in SW Ontario for over 25 years; counselling individuals and families, as well as offering her signature ICH training to other Medical Intuitives in the health field. Nelda’s professional research has been acknowledged and published in the Professional Kinesiology Practitioners Manual. The PKP program is recognized through the International Kinesiology College of Zurich Switzerland.