Mr. Face is a cheeky little gelding who has no trouble showing me my many shortcomings.
If I do not measure up as the best leader, he has no problem letting me know by taking over the show.
Master horse trainer Marlis Amato calls this “The Kindness of Equine”.I have been taught many social skills in my lifetime. Many of these have stood the test of time and hard roads. But the one thing that the school of hard knocks has never prepared me for was kindness, towards myself or others.
In my crazy tribe, we valued the acid wit, the assassin’s strike, the un-provable crime, sarcasm and generally all the stuff that people pull when they crave control when they are fearful.
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People get caught up in the polarity of right and wrong, good and bad. When harsh judgement rears its ugly head, virtues like compassion and gentleness go right out the window.
I know this is weird. This is what is underneath poor behaviour when we try to take other people down a peg. Being harsh or cruel is hard to justify. Most of our time is spent in rationalization and justification. It sucks a huge amount of our energy and attention.
With gentleness and the acceptance that come with it, we don’t need to posture, push or strive. We don’t need to judge or react. Criticizing others in this way is a complete waste of time.
It is too bad that the human animal doesn’t understand this.I have a question for you:
Which trait gives humans the survival edge; survival of the fittest or survival of the kindest?
If you enjoyed this, please share with your friends.Nelda McEwen has been practicing as a Medical Intuitive in SW Ontario for over 25 years; counselling individuals and families, as well as offering her signature ICH training to other Medical Intuitives in the health field. Nelda’s professional research has been acknowledged and published in the Professional Kinesiology Practitioners Manual. The PKP program is recognized through the International Kinesiology College of Zurich Switzerland.